I’m Saying This Once

Stop being a dick.

Excuse the language, but it’s the best way to put it.

There’s a lot of fear in this world right now. Uncertainty as to what the future will hold, in the U.S. we’re dealing with a presidential election in which many people aren’t happy with either of the major candidates. People are getting shot, there’s racism, sexism, and just general hatred toward each other. (I am not going to express my political opinion.)

You should stand up for what you believe in and express your opinions. You should share your ideas, hopes, and dreams with the world. Present solutions you think would work. Don’t forget to listen to others though. That’s how we get to a solution, is by listening to each other, working together. By. Not. Being. Dicks.

This post is for those of us who take it too far in our disagreements. Who decide to throw conversation out the window and be rude, uncivilized humans.

Name calling, insults, anything like that is NOT the answer. No matter what you believe, who you support, your opinions, you should never insult someone. You should never stoop so low as to call them names. There’s no need for sarcasm or snide remarks. Being passive aggressive is out too.

In times where it seems no one agrees, we need to be kind to one another. Talk, offer support, and be welcoming to new ideas. And above all, be willing to have your mind changed, and accept that others have done the same.

It isn’t hard either. I’d say it’s actually much easier. I understand that when one person resorts to being rude it feels easy to respond with the same animosity, but you shouldn’t. I’m not saying you should show them kindness and be all sweet and wonderful to them, but you have options of non-dickishness.

Ask them why they disagree with you. Try to start a dialogue about what they think rather than letting the rudeness continue. Maybe you two can talk it our, or perhaps they felt attacked by something you said even though you didn’t mean it that way. Misunderstandings happen, and people can also channel their emotions into constructive conversation. Just don’t say “Calm down” or anything like that. That’s a bad idea and implies their anger is poorly founded. No one needs that in their life. If you think they need a minute, just say “Maybe we should come back to this later” or something along those lines.
Call them out, say that what they said was uncalled for. If the have a problem with what you said, they should give you a good explanation or not say anything at all. Like I said, rude remarks are never OK.
Or don’t say anything to them at all. Someone who’s resorted to insults probably isn’t worth your time, and there’s a good chance you won’t get any good conversation out of them if their opening line is an attack.

By continuing the berating, you aren’t any better than them. You should be where conflicts end. Not where they escalate.

This is also stuff you should remember when you see or hear something you disagree with. Bring up points why you disagree, be respectful about how you do it, and actually listen to them.

What is really important in this time, is we stick together, no matter what. We have to support each other. It doesn’t matter who wins the election, or anything else, if we can’t be nice and live with each other. The president is just one person, but the rest of us, we need to get along. We don’t need to be friends, we don’t even need to like each other, but we can’t be cruel to one another. If you disagree so much that you make each other’s blood boil, step away. You probably shouldn’t be interacting anyway, unless you can have a constructive conversation and put those feelings aside.

No matter what, take the high road. Do unto others as you would have others do unto you. Whatever other saying you want. What it all boils down to:

Don’t be a dick.

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A Single Coyote

I could hear a single coyote howling earlier. I felt like finding him and saying, “I feel you, dude.” That whole desperate cry in to the vast expanse of space. Of course, little buddy was probably saying, “I’m hungry” or “I’m horny” or “This is my piece of land”, but this is why we don’t take metaphors literally.

One of my biggest problems with feeling like this, is all this speculation. I really want to know what’s wrong with me. Beyond feeling…well…poopy… I have this horrendous PMS I’d really like to figure out, and I have to put it off right now, so moving is really inconvenient for me at the moment. Like, REALLY inconvenient. I decided to wait until I get to Colorado to go to a doctor again and figure all this out, but now I’m sitting here like, “Do I have depression? Do I have endometriosis? PMDD? AM I DYING?!” (Note: I’m not dying.)

So on top of being stressed out by all these possibilities, it’s also scary to think about moving while I could have bigger problems. Like, what if I do suffer from depression? Maybe it is actually a bad idea to move. Or if it is something else and I need to get treatment, or putting it off is allowing it to progress farther like endometriosis building up or whatever it does.

I also just wonder if I’m sort of an emotional train wreck.

Is that a thing? I don’t think it’s really a thing.

With all that being said, I think this is the first time by post’s title has been better than the post itself! Pretty impressive since that’s usually the hardest part for me, but I’m totally fine with that.

Down in the Dumps

I’m going to be honest with you here, I’ve been really down lately. I know these past few years I’ve really struggled with being happy. I’m usually a happy person, but there always seems to be something looming in the darkness. Sometimes I forget about it, sometimes I put it away, but know it’s still there, and sometimes it just makes me feel really bad.

This is something I wonder if I should seek help for. I like to tell myself that it’s just a phase, there’s been a lot of stress, but even then, I should still talk to someone. Right?

Either way, I think this is why I find it so hard to write and make videos, apart from a few other reasons which are unrelated to this thing I seem to be carrying around with me.

The worst part of this is seeing all the horrible stuff going on in the world. People are honestly dicks. I know, I know. I’m supposed to be all yoga, love each other, wonderful hippy love. That’s just not happening lately.  The happy hippy juices are not flowing, and I think they’re being blocked by all this hatred, anger, and stress in the world.

Tonight is just one of those nights where I feel like no one else feels like this too. I don’t even want to hear about the horrible things happening in the world. I can’t talk about it anymore. I’m spent. I have no more fight in me. I can’t be alone in this though. Someone else has to feel like this, but all my other friends seem to still have fight left. They still want to talk about whatever upsetting topic has sprung up today. And I simply can’t.

And these topics get to me too. It’s not that I’m tired of hearing about it happen, this stuff scares me. I don’t even live in a place like Syria, and the world scares me. And no, I will not “think about how much better I have it” because no one should ever feel like their feelings are trivial and small. I’m thankful I live in a place where I probably will never have a bomb dropped on my house, but that doesn’t mean I’m not scared, because I am. I’m scared, and upset, and angry, and stressed.

But mostly tired.

So.

Tired.

Sick Days

I wanted to record a video or write something, but I’ve been really sick lately. I don’t even have the energy right now to turn this into an eloquent blog post unfortunately, so I’m leaving you with this dry and boring apology.

Sorry.

I don’t feel so good.

I’ll talk to you all later. Send healing vibes please.